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Lash Rambo wrote: > I could swear I heard of a vasectomy procedure where they install small > valves that can later be reopened if you want.
Nope. Things like this–along with a male pill–are still in the research phase. trifold www.vasectomy-information.com www.vasectomy-faq.org
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<Michaela> wrote in news:ZvGdnXWZIYXDS4reRVn-iQ@is.co.za: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Lash Rambo wrote: >> William P wrote >>> Lash Rambo wrote >>>> Troll wrote >>>>> "shyguy" wrote >>>>>> Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am >>>>>> scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than >>>>>> her to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more >>>>>> serious procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I >>>>>> know I dont want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you >>>>>> never will have another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to >>>>>> my wife and I’s relationship, will being infertile hurt my >>>>>> chances of marrying again? >>>>> Don’t do it. Use condoms and get her on the pill instead. Why hurt >>>>> yourself? >>>> Depo shots would be even better if her body can handle them. She’ll >>>> only need to get one once every three months (instead of having to >>>> remember to take a pill every day), she won’t have to deal with >>>> menstruation while on them, and they can reduce the chances of >>>> getting certain sex organ cancers (or slow their growth if she >>>> already has them). Price is competitive with the pill, and I >>>> believe Depo is statistically more effective. Some women take Depo >>>> even if they’re not sexually active just for the side benefits. >>> It makes some women seriously fat, that’s one of the problems. >> Yep, I know of one such case (poor woman put on 50 pounds within two >> or three months). I don’t know how common such cases are. Still, I >> think it’d be worth a shot. Don could strike a deal: "You try Depo >> for three months, and if you have serious negative side effects, then >> you stop and I’ll get the vasectomy." Sounds fair to me. > I wouldn’t stress *too much* on side effects in case it gives her > any ideas.
Right, stress the benefits. Even still, I figure it’s probably easier to reverse some weight gain or diminished libido than it is to reverse a vasectomy (barring the availability of the valve thing I mentioned in another post). I have a hard time seeing Don successfully negotiating something like this with his wife, but I’m prepared to be surprised.
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"BLT Sammich" <trub…@boredsilly.com> wrote in news:df8p6u$bho$0 @pita.alt.net: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Lash Rambo wrote: >> William P <willd…@sympatico.ca> wrote in >> news:Xns96C4757FA4201willdotpsympaticodot@204.153.244.170: >> > Lash Rambo <l…@fakeaddr.com> wrote in >> > news:Xns96C3A350FF8E1lrfakeaddrcom@68.1.17.6: >> >> Troll <tr…@master.com> wrote in >> >> news:Xns96C32CCCD17E9eh3du@localhost: >> >>> "shyguy" <stry…@hotmail.com> wrote in >> news:1125451707.567042.198040 >>> @g43g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: >> >>>> Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am >> >>>> scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather >> than >>>> her to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a >> more >>>> serious procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that >> bad. I >>>> know I dont want nay more kids but something about >> KNOWING you never >>>> will have another kid bothers me. Is somethign >> happens to my wife >>>> and I’s relationship, will being infertile >> hurt my chances of >>>> marrying again? >> >>> Don’t do it. Use condoms and get her on the pill instead. Why >> hurt >>> yourself? >> >> Depo shots would be even better if her body can handle them. >> She’ll >> only need to get one once every three months (instead of >> having to >> remember to take a pill every day), she won’t have to >> deal with >> menstruation while on them, and they can reduce the >> chances of getting >> certain sex organ cancers (or slow their growth >> if she already has >> them). Price is competitive with the pill, and >> I believe Depo is >> statistically more effective. Some women take >> Depo even if they’re >> not sexually active just for the side >> benefits. >> > It makes some women seriously fat, that’s one of the problems. >> Yep, I know of one such case (poor woman put on 50 pounds within two >> or three months). I don’t know how common such cases are. Still, I >> think it’d be worth a shot. Don could strike a deal: "You try Depo >> for three months, and if you have serious negative side effects, then >> you stop and I’ll get the vasectomy." Sounds fair to me. > Ive heard of that too and some other negative emotional side effects.
I’ve heard it can diminish libido to some degree. The biggie, and maybe I’m getting this mixed up with the pill, is blood problems. There’s either problems with clotting or problems with not clotting. It’s very rare, though, and would seem to be a risk that could be assessed beforehand (family history, etc.).
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Lash Rambo wrote: > <Michaela> wrote in news:ZvGdnXWZIYXDS4reRVn-iQ@is.co.za: > > Lash Rambo wrote: > >> William P wrote > >>> Lash Rambo wrote > >>>> Troll wrote > >>>>> "shyguy" wrote > >>>>>> Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am > >>>>>> scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than > >>>>>> her to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more > >>>>>> serious procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I > >>>>>> know I dont want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you > >>>>>> never will have another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to > >>>>>> my wife and I’s relationship, will being infertile hurt my > >>>>>> chances of marrying again? > >>>>> Don’t do it. Use condoms and get her on the pill instead. Why hurt > >>>>> yourself? > >>>> Depo shots would be even better if her body can handle them. She’ll > >>>> only need to get one once every three months (instead of having to > >>>> remember to take a pill every day), she won’t have to deal with > >>>> menstruation while on them, and they can reduce the chances of > >>>> getting certain sex organ cancers (or slow their growth if she > >>>> already has them). Price is competitive with the pill, and I > >>>> believe Depo is statistically more effective. Some women take Depo > >>>> even if they’re not sexually active just for the side benefits. > >>> It makes some women seriously fat, that’s one of the problems. > >> Yep, I know of one such case (poor woman put on 50 pounds within two > >> or three months). I don’t know how common such cases are. Still, I > >> think it’d be worth a shot. Don could strike a deal: "You try Depo > >> for three months, and if you have serious negative side effects, then > >> you stop and I’ll get the vasectomy." Sounds fair to me. > > I wouldn’t stress *too much* on side effects in case it gives her > > any ideas. > Right, stress the benefits. Even still, I figure it’s probably easier to > reverse some weight gain or diminished libido than it is to reverse a > vasectomy (barring the availability of the valve thing I mentioned in > another post). > I have a hard time seeing Don successfully negotiating something like > this with his wife, but I’m prepared to be surprised.
Yeh, if he was ready to listen we could coach him with all the possible/potential arguments (note to August – a la Dale Carnegie. Again the nonresistance principle comes into play: fully prepare yourself and watch all resistance crumble). However I’m thinking that perhaps Don is not ready to face the fact that he has choices. – Michaela
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Lash Rambo wrote: > William P <willd…@sympatico.ca> wrote in > news:Xns96C4757FA4201willdotpsympaticodot@204.153.244.170: > > Lash Rambo <l…@fakeaddr.com> wrote in > > news:Xns96C3A350FF8E1lrfakeaddrcom@68.1.17.6: > >> Troll <tr…@master.com> wrote in > >> news:Xns96C32CCCD17E9eh3du@localhost: > >>> "shyguy" <stry…@hotmail.com> wrote in > news:1125451707.567042.198040 >>> @g43g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: > >>>> Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am > >>>> scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather > than >>>> her to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a > more >>>> serious procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that > bad. I >>>> know I dont want nay more kids but something about > KNOWING you never >>>> will have another kid bothers me. Is somethign > happens to my wife >>>> and I’s relationship, will being infertile > hurt my chances of >>>> marrying again? > >>> Don’t do it. Use condoms and get her on the pill instead. Why > hurt >>> yourself? > >> Depo shots would be even better if her body can handle them. > She’ll >> only need to get one once every three months (instead of > having to >> remember to take a pill every day), she won’t have to > deal with >> menstruation while on them, and they can reduce the > chances of getting >> certain sex organ cancers (or slow their growth > if she already has >> them). Price is competitive with the pill, and > I believe Depo is >> statistically more effective. Some women take > Depo even if they’re >> not sexually active just for the side > benefits. > > It makes some women seriously fat, that’s one of the problems. > Yep, I know of one such case (poor woman put on 50 pounds within two > or three months). I don’t know how common such cases are. Still, I > think it’d be worth a shot. Don could strike a deal: "You try Depo > for three months, and if you have serious negative side effects, then > you stop and I’ll get the vasectomy." Sounds fair to me.
Ive heard of that too and some other negative emotional side effects.
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Lash Rambo wrote: > I’ve heard it can diminish libido to some degree.
Whereas a guy having a vasectomy so his wife comes off chemical bc can have the opposite effect–increase in partner’s sex drive. That’s what happened for us. And I’m not complaining! trifold www.vasectomy-information.com www.vasectomy-faq.org
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -William P wrote: > Troll <tr…@master.com> wrote in news:Xns96C5DE92E180Eeh3du@localhost: >>Lash Rambo <l…@fakeaddr.com> wrote in >>news:Xns96C58B94D25Dlrfakeaddrcom@ 68.1.17.6: >>>"shyguy" <stry…@hotmail.com> wrote in news:1125665286.361118.173990 >>>@g44g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: >>>>I am not totally against having one. I really dont want kids right >>>>now. But if I ever got divorced and met someone else I could change. >>>>I also think about "dating" and what "having an accident" would >>>>cause. It could be a nightmare. I think there are some women out >>>>there that actually try to get pregnat on purpose. (Not alot but >>>>some). >>>I checked >>>http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vasectomy >>>and didn’t see mention of the valve thing I read about. They stress >>>on that page that vasectomy should be considered permanent. So, if >>>there’s any doubt in your mind, seek alternatives. >>>Finally, should you have a vasectomy, get a divorce, and later marry >>>a woman who wants to start a new family, there’s always adoption. > Yeah, or artificial insemination, or getting an a.s.s. guy to perform a > hot beef injection.
Is somebody taking volunteers? >>Vasectomy is slicing your balls. His cold unthinking wife shouldn’t >>even think about getting him into that. > It’s also for the guy, if he doesn’t want to have kids and doesn’t want > his wife gaining 30 pounds or having weird mood side effects. And if > you’re going to use condoms forever, you might as well avoid the > emotional effort and just grease up and screw a rubber duck.
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shyguy wrote: > Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am > scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than her > to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more serious > procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I know I dont > want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you never will have > another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to my wife and I’s > relationship, will being infertile hurt my chances of marrying again?
These concerns are a good reason not to get a vasectomy. I had one 7 years ago–the worst part was the hair growing back. But I was very sure I didn’t want kids. There is some evidence people w/concerns like yours are more likely to be unsatisfied with the results than others. For lots of information on vasectomy, including stories by guys who have been through it, links to medical sites about procedures, complications, etc., even jokes and pictures and video (!!), check out: www.vasectomy-information.com There is also a link there to a specialised newsgroup–and chatroom. trifold
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I am not totally against having one. I really dont want kids right now. But if I ever got divorced and met someone else I could change. I also think about "dating" and what "having an accident" would cause. It could be a nightmare. I think there are some women out there that actually try to get pregnat on purpose. (Not alot but some).
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"shyguy" <stry…@hotmail.com> wrote in news:1125665286.361118.173990 @g44g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: > I am not totally against having one. I really dont want kids right now. > But if I ever got divorced and met someone else I could change. > I also think about "dating" and what "having an accident" would cause. > It could be a nightmare. I think there are some women out there that > actually try to get pregnat on purpose. (Not alot but some).
I checked http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vasectomy and didn’t see mention of the valve thing I read about. They stress on that page that vasectomy should be considered permanent. So, if there’s any doubt in your mind, seek alternatives. Finally, should you have a vasectomy, get a divorce, and later marry a woman who wants to start a new family, there’s always adoption.
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Troll <tr…@master.com> wrote in news:Xns96C5DE92E180Eeh3du@localhost: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Lash Rambo <l…@fakeaddr.com> wrote in > news:Xns96C58B94D25Dlrfakeaddrcom@ 68.1.17.6: >> "shyguy" <stry…@hotmail.com> wrote in news:1125665286.361118.173990 >> @g44g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: >>> I am not totally against having one. I really dont want kids right >>> now. But if I ever got divorced and met someone else I could change. >>> I also think about "dating" and what "having an accident" would >>> cause. It could be a nightmare. I think there are some women out >>> there that actually try to get pregnat on purpose. (Not alot but >>> some). >> I checked >> http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vasectomy >> and didn’t see mention of the valve thing I read about. They stress >> on that page that vasectomy should be considered permanent. So, if >> there’s any doubt in your mind, seek alternatives. >> Finally, should you have a vasectomy, get a divorce, and later marry >> a woman who wants to start a new family, there’s always adoption.
Yeah, or artificial insemination, or getting an a.s.s. guy to perform a hot beef injection. > Vasectomy is slicing your balls. His cold unthinking wife shouldn’t > even think about getting him into that.
It’s also for the guy, if he doesn’t want to have kids and doesn’t want his wife gaining 30 pounds or having weird mood side effects. And if you’re going to use condoms forever, you might as well avoid the emotional effort and just grease up and screw a rubber duck.
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LisatheSequel <dontmai…@goaway.com> wrote in news:df3tbp$30o$1 @swifty.westend.com: > My first husband thought the same way you do, our family was complete > as far as he was concerned and he did it for me because it was easier. > Later we divorced. Now he can’t start a family with a new wife > without going through surgery again. Even then it’s "iffy".
I suppose if one is unsure, then one should not do it. — "You tried to scan me, you freaked-out maniac." –TV’s Frank.
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"shyguy" <stry…@hotmail.com> wrote in news:1125451707.567042.198040 @g43g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: > Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am > scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than her > to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more serious > procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I know I dont > want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you never will have > another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to my wife and I’s > relationship, will being infertile hurt my chances of marrying again?
I could swear I heard of a vasectomy procedure where they install small valves that can later be reopened if you want.
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Troll <tr…@master.com> wrote in news:Xns96C32CCCD17E9eh3du@localhost: > "shyguy" <stry…@hotmail.com> wrote in news:1125451707.567042.198040 > @g43g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: >> Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am >> scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than her >> to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more serious >> procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I know I dont >> want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you never will have >> another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to my wife and I’s >> relationship, will being infertile hurt my chances of marrying again? > Don’t do it. Use condoms and get her on the pill instead. Why hurt > yourself?
Depo shots would be even better if her body can handle them. She’ll only need to get one once every three months (instead of having to remember to take a pill every day), she won’t have to deal with menstruation while on them, and they can reduce the chances of getting certain sex organ cancers (or slow their growth if she already has them). Price is competitive with the pill, and I believe Depo is statistically more effective. Some women take Depo even if they’re not sexually active just for the side benefits.
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shyguy wrote: > Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am > scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than her > to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more serious > procedure.
In a way I admire you in a similar manner to the way I admired my older brother once. After a number of years, he and his wife were unable to have children. I may be really wrong about this, but being quite short I always seemed to see him as trying to compensate in other ways, so when he was quick to offer to have himself checked first to see if he was the one with the problem, I really thought it was cool. Also afaic* remember in those days men denied that the problem could be theirs. * but this may well just be my perception and not the truth. OTOH why do I always seem to hear you being the one to offer up? Is it just me? Is it just what I want to see? Or is it just your version of the truth? All I do know is, if you just told her every now and then to do it herself or to shut up or that you were always going to have first choice on who gets to drive your hard-earned truck, you’d probably find her treating you much better. Strange innit? Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I know I dont > want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you never will have > another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to my wife and I’s > relationship, will being infertile hurt my chances of marrying again?
If you believe they will. God, why you he even thinking of getting divorced? Another case of self-fulfilling prophecy? – Michaela
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—–BEGIN PGP SIGNED MESSAGE—– Hash: SHA1 Only now do I realize it’s you… In article <1125451707.567042.198…@g43g2000cwa.googlegroups.com> shyguy <stry…@hotmail.com> wrote: >Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am >scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than her >to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more serious >procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I know I dont >want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you never will have >another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to my wife and I’s >relationship, will being infertile hurt my chances of marrying again?
Unfortunately and IMHO, I do not trust your wife to appreciate the sacrifice you are prepared to make for her. In fact, I suspect she may see you as being a "pushover" for it. Also, you seem to have *some* doubts over wanting this. In that case, be a pushover now where it might actually do you some good and do as we tell you: DON’T get the snip if you feel uncomfortable about it!] Now that I know it’s you (and knowing your history), I’d agree with another poster in this thread. Get *her* on the pill and use condoms and/or the calendar. And/or whatever else works for you. Until she convinces you that she’d appreciate your sacrifice for her. Does she know that other attractive women who know you know that you’re considering getting the snip and are trying to talk you out of it? She should, even if these women are imaginary… – — "If you lie to the compiler, it will get its revenge." – Henry Spencer —–BEGIN PGP SIGNATURE—– Version: GnuPG v1.4.2 (GNU/Linux) Comment: Please fetch my new key 804177F8 from hkp://wwwkeys.eu.pgp.net/ Comment: My current keys will expire in a month, please ask for ID checks now. iD8DBQFDFrsM/FmLrNfLpjMRAvUyAJ9SlFWbHzMg6pWT5SGIwZDNb5rCRwCfcL6a nMsI4HcjkW5MfMtxgNTFRCw= =TaV+ —–END PGP SIGNATURE—–
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Lash Rambo <l…@fakeaddr.com> wrote in news:Xns96C3A350FF8E1lrfakeaddrcom@68.1.17.6: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Troll <tr…@master.com> wrote in > news:Xns96C32CCCD17E9eh3du@localhost: >> "shyguy" <stry…@hotmail.com> wrote in news:1125451707.567042.198040 >> @g43g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: >>> Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am >>> scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than >>> her to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more >>> serious procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I >>> know I dont want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you never >>> will have another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to my wife >>> and I’s relationship, will being infertile hurt my chances of >>> marrying again? >> Don’t do it. Use condoms and get her on the pill instead. Why hurt >> yourself? > Depo shots would be even better if her body can handle them. She’ll > only need to get one once every three months (instead of having to > remember to take a pill every day), she won’t have to deal with > menstruation while on them, and they can reduce the chances of getting > certain sex organ cancers (or slow their growth if she already has > them). Price is competitive with the pill, and I believe Depo is > statistically more effective. Some women take Depo even if they’re > not sexually active just for the side benefits.
It makes some women seriously fat, that’s one of the problems.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Lash Rambo wrote: > William P wrote >> Lash Rambo wrote >>> Troll wrote >>>> "shyguy" wrote >>>>> Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am >>>>> scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than >>>>> her to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more >>>>> serious procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I >>>>> know I dont want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you >>>>> never will have another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to >>>>> my wife and I’s relationship, will being infertile hurt my >>>>> chances of marrying again? >>>> Don’t do it. Use condoms and get her on the pill instead. Why hurt >>>> yourself? >>> Depo shots would be even better if her body can handle them. She’ll >>> only need to get one once every three months (instead of having to >>> remember to take a pill every day), she won’t have to deal with >>> menstruation while on them, and they can reduce the chances of >>> getting certain sex organ cancers (or slow their growth if she >>> already has them). Price is competitive with the pill, and I >>> believe Depo is statistically more effective. Some women take Depo >>> even if they’re not sexually active just for the side benefits. >> It makes some women seriously fat, that’s one of the problems. > Yep, I know of one such case (poor woman put on 50 pounds within two > or three months). I don’t know how common such cases are. Still, I > think it’d be worth a shot. Don could strike a deal: "You try Depo > for three months, and if you have serious negative side effects, then > you stop and I’ll get the vasectomy." Sounds fair to me.
I wouldn’t stress *too much* on side effects in case it gives her any ideas. – Michaela
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I think a great number of losers should get vasectomies, so that they stop producing so many children they don’t care about in the first place.
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"Russ" <russman7…@yahoo.com> wrote in news:1125604956.040355.181300 @g44g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: > I think a great number of losers should get vasectomies, so that they > stop producing so many children they don’t care about in the first > place.
Sadly, to have that kind of foresight in the first place would negate their loserdom.
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William P <willd…@sympatico.ca> wrote in news:Xns96C4757FA4201willdotpsympaticodot@204.153.244.170: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Lash Rambo <l…@fakeaddr.com> wrote in > news:Xns96C3A350FF8E1lrfakeaddrcom@68.1.17.6: >> Troll <tr…@master.com> wrote in >> news:Xns96C32CCCD17E9eh3du@localhost: >>> "shyguy" <stry…@hotmail.com> wrote in news:1125451707.567042.198040 >>> @g43g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: >>>> Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am >>>> scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than >>>> her to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more >>>> serious procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I >>>> know I dont want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you never >>>> will have another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to my wife >>>> and I’s relationship, will being infertile hurt my chances of >>>> marrying again? >>> Don’t do it. Use condoms and get her on the pill instead. Why hurt >>> yourself? >> Depo shots would be even better if her body can handle them. She’ll >> only need to get one once every three months (instead of having to >> remember to take a pill every day), she won’t have to deal with >> menstruation while on them, and they can reduce the chances of getting >> certain sex organ cancers (or slow their growth if she already has >> them). Price is competitive with the pill, and I believe Depo is >> statistically more effective. Some women take Depo even if they’re >> not sexually active just for the side benefits. > It makes some women seriously fat, that’s one of the problems.
Yep, I know of one such case (poor woman put on 50 pounds within two or three months). I don’t know how common such cases are. Still, I think it’d be worth a shot. Don could strike a deal: "You try Depo for three months, and if you have serious negative side effects, then you stop and I’ll get the vasectomy." Sounds fair to me.
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shyguy wrote: > Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am > scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than her > to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more serious > procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I know I dont > want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you never will have > another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to my wife and I’s > relationship, will being infertile hurt my chances of marrying again?
Can’t make this decision for you, but consider what happened to me. My first husband thought the same way you do, our family was complete as far as he was concerned and he did it for me because it was easier. Later we divorced. Now he can’t start a family with a new wife without going through surgery again. Even then it’s "iffy". Keeping in mind I can’t predict case-by-case how women will react to your being sterile, I can however say that with a young woman who wanted to start a family one day it would present problems. That’s simple enough to predict. If something is bothering you about this, you need to pay attention to that feeling. Such a drastic decision is like amputating when a Bandaid would do. As for the procedure, it’s not pleasant. My former husband was awake but numb. He felt a pulling sensation in his abdomen which constricted the muscles all the way to his anus, and smelled the smoke when the doctor cauterized. This was very sore afterward. He was swollen and found it hard to walk for a day or two, and was given pain medicine. He didn’t seem to suffer any major pain or long term physical problems with it.
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> Is somethign happens to my wife and I’s > relationship, will being infertile hurt my chances of marrying again?
You are not making sense. If this hypothetical future wife wants children, why would you marry her anyway? You just said you don’t want anymore children. Are you saying that the future wife will marry you if don’t want children, but reject you if you are infertile? You need a spine. You are allowing yourself to be controlled by women. Consider if YOU want more children – that’s what matters. Not whether some potential future wife might want them.
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shyguy wrote: > Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am > scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than her > to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more serious > procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I know I dont > want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you never will have > another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to my wife and I’s > relationship, will being infertile hurt my chances of marrying again?
Good for you! If you really don’t want anymore then get it done. If something happens to your wife you will still have your existing children. If you were to be in a situation to date again, you would just have to be upfront about not wanting any more children. Not everyone wants children.
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Looks like even though I am scared of needles and surgery, I am scheduling a vasectomy. I told my wife I would do this rather than her to have to go through getting her tubes tied which is a more serious procedure. Has anyone here ever had it? Is it that bad. I know I dont want nay more kids but something about KNOWING you never will have another kid bothers me. Is somethign happens to my wife and I’s relationship, will being infertile hurt my chances of marrying again?