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Question about vasectomy and wife
Question:
> This is going to sound stupid but did your wife "not want you" as much > after you were now infertile? Seems like I have heard that this can > happen subconciously. > Did anyone get a divorce shorlty after a vasectomy? i now someone that > did. (I am not saying this is why).
So many things cause strife between partners – is it *ever* possible to say just one thing was the cause? To generalise a bit:- The vast majority of men report that vasectomy did not make any diference to their relationship, or enhanced it. Reading between the lines a bit, I’d suggest that the reason being that in the vast majority of cases the decision was a) un-pressured, b) considered and c) both partners were equally positive about having it done. A trawl through the various studies and surveys that have been done tend to suggest that satisfaction with vasectomy is high when the couple have taken time to think it through, there isn’t any pressure from either partner, it’s been fully discussed and good counselling has been provided. On the flip side of the coin, satisfaction tends to be poor where one or other partner feels excluded from the decision (leading to later resentment), where the decision was made for the wrong reasons, where pressure was applied and where counselling (that should highlight the above) was poor. I’d suggest it might be worth looking into how the decision was made. Unfortunately pressure to have it done, exclusion from the decision making process, and not thinking it through are not uncommon. It may be that she feels some resentment for not being fully part of the decision, it may be that they didn’t consider fully the implications of being sterile, and it may be nothing to do with the vasectomy. I guess that the vasectomy could have been a trigger, much along the lines of "The straw that broke the camel’s back". David www.vasectomy-information.com
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This is going to sound stupid but did your wife "not want you" as much after you were now infertile? Seems like I have heard that this can happen subconciously. Did anyone get a divorce shorlty after a vasectomy? i now someone that did. (I am not saying this is why).
Response:
ALWAYSLONE…@HOTMAIL.COM (Danny) wrote in message <news:b5a3c339.0407190721.5796d4ac@posting.google.com>… > This is going to sound stupid but did your wife "not want you" as much > after you were now infertile? Seems like I have heard that this can > happen subconciously. > Did anyone get a divorce shorlty after a vasectomy? i now someone that > did. (I am not saying this is why).
That happened to me. My wife doesn’t find me as attractive…whether this is a subconscious thing or not I’m not sure at this point but it is definitely affected our marriage.